days ago a reader Another kind of communication posted the text of a song by Caparezza, a real man should do the dishes , 2008, but still present to describe the social cage in which he is detained the man:
Not a man like a brother if you ask forgiveness. Not a man to do if you're not good blows.
're not a man if your wife if you fuck it. Not if you are a man .. if not swollen with blows.
're not a man if you do not drive big cars. Not unless you're a man shoots two hooks priced.
if you're not a man afraid to go to jail. You're not a gay man are you if you cry.
Not a man and do a bad end. You're not a man ... if does not have a round belly.
Not a man not having a good Sunday. You're not a man at night if you do not go to the brothel.
're not a man ... if you do not pull the pea. Not if you give a man and does not show the claws.
're not a man unless you take blows to your children. You're not a man if you do not respect you enough.
You know what you're missing? An iron in his pocket. Not a man and do a bad end.
not listen to these slanderers. You do not go forward with strength but with the strength of the arguments.
not listen to these idiots. A real man should get up and wash the dishes. A real man should Lavari dishes.
're not a man unless you have the most powerful stereo. And then you see the photos you have on your license.
're not a man if you waste your time studying the books. If you are a man .. better to begin with snatching.
're not a man if you get caught planting. Not a man from prison if you do my name.
're not a man if I fuck, if I notice. You're not a man alive, you're a dead man.
Not a man and do a bad end.
From Feminism to the south of patriarchy deserters try to give us an antidote:
Resolutions for 2011 1. For too long, many of us have neglected the physical, mental and spiritual. Let us take care of ourselves, not shift responsibility for our care to other s
2. Let's take the responsibility to maintain and preserve our social relations. Send greeting cards, buy gifts for the grandchildren, remember birthdays, dinners or just for entertaining, are activities that keep us alive and in relation to other s Let us stop to let other / the management of our social network! Recall first person to those around us that we keep to their words and their presence.
3. We listen to women, without interruption, without denying immediately, without criticism or ridicule just because they are women. Listen, understand, respond in a relevant subject and not by gender dell'interlocutrice / hours. And keeping my mouth shut enough long, we might learn something!
4. We focus in our activities and / or discussions, as we give weight to the opinions, the word and the presence of other subjectivities. Lack of participation of women and trans people of different backgrounds and / or lived binds us to the paradigm of patriarchal heteronormative (*) and racist.
5. We also learn the actions and activities that make always leave only to women. Do laundry properly, for example. You and I know how to do laundry. It 'as easy as changing the oil holding a beer, repair the drain, or hang a new plasma television. It 'time to stop pretending to be ignorant. Understand more about ourselves and we will gain tools and possibilities of mutual understanding.
6. Eliminate the sexist and misogynistic words from our vocabulary - and our inner dialogue as well. When a woman does something that we do not like, do not call "bitch" - not even in our heads! It 'an attitude of mind and functional stupid violence. We avoid the silent complicity with others expressing dissent clearly when we listen to language and / or witnessing misogynistic attitudes and homo / transphobia.
7. We must always be provided with condoms and put it before she is forced to ask us. Just wear it. It 'an act of respect and responsibility we owe to ourselves and anyone who have sex with us.
8. We avoid any sexual activity that objectifies, exploits, hurts or humiliates women. Evitiamola, because it is humiliating and degrading for us,
9. We choose to have sex only with people who are aware and we are sure will. This means that they are not drunk, confused or frightened. Which have not been handled or the situation is the result of an act of bullying, harassment and / or psychological pressure or abuse of power.
10. Solve conflicts in a nonviolent way, without abuse, without reprisal or revenge, and without involving those who has nothing to do - especially if it is daughters and sons.
11. We find another man to love, in any way. Friend, father, colleague, try to feel, even as a joke, even in a bar, the sound of the word "love," said another man. Let's go out and see how it feels. Let's get to the test, in this as in other situations.
12. We work to eliminate our homophobia and / or transofobia. The heteronormativity (*) destroys our connection with all other human beings. It prevents us from loving. We must be able to love deeply. As men we are capable of giving and receiving lots of love - and not only by women. Informiamoci, reading, speaking, we know other experiences. It sure gain something.
13. Informiamoci about feminism. There are many stories and many current feminist literary and artistic avant-garde movements. It 'an enormously complex story on which she should know more, especially because it affects us who we are and we will be there, along with those who have a history that few know. Again and again, know so much more of ourselves.
->>>(*): For heteronormative, heteronormative, heteronormative means all the rules / behavioral / psychological / language etc which are based on the idea that the only possible sexuality and / or mandatory is that Bait.
Not a man like a brother if you ask forgiveness. Not a man to do if you're not good blows.
're not a man if your wife if you fuck it. Not if you are a man .. if not swollen with blows.
're not a man if you do not drive big cars. Not unless you're a man shoots two hooks priced.
if you're not a man afraid to go to jail. You're not a gay man are you if you cry.
Not a man and do a bad end. You're not a man ... if does not have a round belly.
Not a man not having a good Sunday. You're not a man at night if you do not go to the brothel.
're not a man ... if you do not pull the pea. Not if you give a man and does not show the claws.
're not a man unless you take blows to your children. You're not a man if you do not respect you enough.
You know what you're missing? An iron in his pocket. Not a man and do a bad end.
not listen to these slanderers. You do not go forward with strength but with the strength of the arguments.
not listen to these idiots. A real man should get up and wash the dishes. A real man should Lavari dishes.
're not a man unless you have the most powerful stereo. And then you see the photos you have on your license.
're not a man if you waste your time studying the books. If you are a man .. better to begin with snatching.
're not a man if you get caught planting. Not a man from prison if you do my name.
're not a man if I fuck, if I notice. You're not a man alive, you're a dead man.
Not a man and do a bad end.
From Feminism to the south of patriarchy deserters try to give us an antidote:
Resolutions for 2011 1. For too long, many of us have neglected the physical, mental and spiritual. Let us take care of ourselves, not shift responsibility for our care to other s
2. Let's take the responsibility to maintain and preserve our social relations. Send greeting cards, buy gifts for the grandchildren, remember birthdays, dinners or just for entertaining, are activities that keep us alive and in relation to other s Let us stop to let other / the management of our social network! Recall first person to those around us that we keep to their words and their presence.
3. We listen to women, without interruption, without denying immediately, without criticism or ridicule just because they are women. Listen, understand, respond in a relevant subject and not by gender dell'interlocutrice / hours. And keeping my mouth shut enough long, we might learn something!
4. We focus in our activities and / or discussions, as we give weight to the opinions, the word and the presence of other subjectivities. Lack of participation of women and trans people of different backgrounds and / or lived binds us to the paradigm of patriarchal heteronormative (*) and racist.
5. We also learn the actions and activities that make always leave only to women. Do laundry properly, for example. You and I know how to do laundry. It 'as easy as changing the oil holding a beer, repair the drain, or hang a new plasma television. It 'time to stop pretending to be ignorant. Understand more about ourselves and we will gain tools and possibilities of mutual understanding.
6. Eliminate the sexist and misogynistic words from our vocabulary - and our inner dialogue as well. When a woman does something that we do not like, do not call "bitch" - not even in our heads! It 'an attitude of mind and functional stupid violence. We avoid the silent complicity with others expressing dissent clearly when we listen to language and / or witnessing misogynistic attitudes and homo / transphobia.
7. We must always be provided with condoms and put it before she is forced to ask us. Just wear it. It 'an act of respect and responsibility we owe to ourselves and anyone who have sex with us.
8. We avoid any sexual activity that objectifies, exploits, hurts or humiliates women. Evitiamola, because it is humiliating and degrading for us,
9. We choose to have sex only with people who are aware and we are sure will. This means that they are not drunk, confused or frightened. Which have not been handled or the situation is the result of an act of bullying, harassment and / or psychological pressure or abuse of power.
10. Solve conflicts in a nonviolent way, without abuse, without reprisal or revenge, and without involving those who has nothing to do - especially if it is daughters and sons.
11. We find another man to love, in any way. Friend, father, colleague, try to feel, even as a joke, even in a bar, the sound of the word "love," said another man. Let's go out and see how it feels. Let's get to the test, in this as in other situations.
12. We work to eliminate our homophobia and / or transofobia. The heteronormativity (*) destroys our connection with all other human beings. It prevents us from loving. We must be able to love deeply. As men we are capable of giving and receiving lots of love - and not only by women. Informiamoci, reading, speaking, we know other experiences. It sure gain something.
13. Informiamoci about feminism. There are many stories and many current feminist literary and artistic avant-garde movements. It 'an enormously complex story on which she should know more, especially because it affects us who we are and we will be there, along with those who have a history that few know. Again and again, know so much more of ourselves.
->>>(*): For heteronormative, heteronormative, heteronormative means all the rules / behavioral / psychological / language etc which are based on the idea that the only possible sexuality and / or mandatory is that Bait.
